The Sin That Destroyed a Soldier

2 Samuel 11:1-11 “In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war, David sent Joab out with the king’s men and the whole Israelite army. They destroyed the Ammonites and besieged Rabbah. But David remained in Jerusalem. One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing. The woman was very beautiful, and David sent someone to find out about her. The man said, “Isn’t this Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite?” Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her. (She had purified herself from her uncleanness.) Then she went back home. The woman conceived and sent word to David, saying, “I am pregnant.” So David sent this word to Joab: “Send me Uriah the Hittite.” And Joab sent him to David. When Uriah came to him, David asked him how Joab was, how the soldiers were and how the war was going. Then David said to Uriah, “Go down to your house and wash your feet.” So Uriah left the palace, and a gift from the king was sent after him. But Uriah slept at the entrance to the palace with all his master’s servants and did not go down to his house. When David was told, “Uriah did not go home,” he asked him, “Haven’t you just come from a distance? Why didn’t you go home?” Uriah said to David, “The ark and Israel and Judah are staying in tents, and my master Joab and my lord’s men are camped in the open fields. How could I go to my house to eat and drink and lie with my wife? As surely as you live, I will not do such a thing!”

As the army of God was advancing and many victories were won David gets into some of the worst sin of his life. Many times when I’ve read this passage I have always tried to learn a lesson from David, However, in this article we will try to learn a lesson from Uriah the Hittite.

 

“Who is Uriah the Hittite?” You may be asking, well we find in 2 Samuel 23:8,39 These are the names of David’s mighty men: and Uriah the Hittite. There were thirty-seven in all”.  Uriah was one of David’s Mighty Men! Though his victories are not recorded, we can conclude from the other Mighty’s that Uriah had to be an incredible soldier and skilled at what he did. Uriah was a man on the battlefield, he was the man who was all about forceful advancement, and being sold out. Yet, every man has his weakness Uriah’s weakness was his relationship with his number one disciple, His wife! You can be a man of battle, but don’t forget the battle starts at home. If your wife isn’t doing well, it’s entirely your fault!

Uriah was a great warrior out on the battlefield, but at home he was being defeated. Many scholars suggest Bathsheba bathing on the roof was intentional so that David would see her. As in that culture in the evening a cool breeze would come and many would go onto their rooftops to enjoy the cool of the day. Yet it was at this time Bathsheba decides to bathe. Proverbs 19:22 “What a man desires is unfailing love”. When one does not get this love, they look for it in all the wrong places. Bathsheba was not getting her needs meet by God, or Uriah. In fact, once Uriah comes home from battle, he doesn’t go home to his number 1 disciple, Bathsheba.  Many times David urges Uriah to go home to his wife, but again and again Uriah stays focused on the battle of the kingdom and forgets the battle in his own home.  How different the scriptures would of read if Uriah was taking care of his wife. But it’s because he wasn’t willing to go home, that it cost him his life!  Proverbs 14:1 “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” The Bible says the woman has the ability to build her house or to tear it down, and this is not dependent of the husband but is outside his control. I believe many mighty men have fallen over the years because they were not taking care of their wives.

1 Peter 3:7 “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.” When a man is not considerate to his wife, then his walk with God is hindered! The man who is only focused on the battle outside the home will fall every time. But the man, who starts with a victory at home, will for sure bring a victory outside as he walks close to God!

Ephesians 5:25-33 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.  The whole reason for marriage is so that we can more understand Jesus’s relationship with the church/his wife! The one thing that Jesus talked about the most was his wife/the kingdom. That she was like a pearl or a fine treasure (Mt 13:44-46), a wife of noble character who can find, she is worth far more the rubies! (Pr 31:10)

 

How did Jesus meet the needs of his wife? Well, first he Washes her with the word. You don’t wash your clothes because they are clean, and in the same way Men need to wash their wives when they are dirty! Jesus is very patient with his wife, and very gentle, but also hard line. We need to strive to have the same spirit when we wash our wives, not Scrub our wives with wire brush pads! Jesus also Presents his wife to himself. When your wife is clean she’s a gift to you. You then can truly enjoy the wife of your youth. When your wife is doing awesome, it’s easy for the husband to also do awesome. And Jesus’s whole goal was to make his wife Radiant, without stain or wrinkle, and blameless. The whole idea is to crank your wife!

Soldiers of the cross need to take responsibility! One great preacher once said, “if your wife is 100% wrong, your 200% wrong!” Because Man is the head of woman (1 Corinthians 11:3) the husband was made to lead woman, and the wife was made to follow her husband. (Gen 3:16) As my spiritual father once said; “The fact is if a husband doesn’t want to lead his wife, it’s because he’d rather be a woman. And if a wife doesn’t want to follow her husband, it’s because she’d rather be a man!” I have to lift up my wife for this, what a challenge, to be called by God to submit to an imperfect man, myself. And she has done a fantastic job in following me though I have many weaknesses, and even at one point was like a Uriah. How easy Husbands have it when we get to submit just to a perfect leader, Jesus! But God is not unjust as some would think. As we understand Man also has human leaders set up by God. And though no one is perfect besides Christ, Man is still called to submit to imperfect leaders. Uriah could possibly have saved his life if he would of continued to follow the imperfect leader God put in his life. Husbands, the only way to be a great leader to your wife is if you become a great follower to men God has placed in your life. Then we can truly understand the challenge of submitting ourselves to imperfect leaders. God is Sovereign, and has designed it so perfectly! Don’t be destroyed for the same sin that took Uriah the Hittite out, but Husband; be like Jesus to your wife, and wife submit as if he was! & To God be all the glory!

 

Coltin L Rohn